.Can You Become A Millionaire?
.Can You Become A Millionaire?
By RETIREBYFORTY
Recently, I saw a question on Twitter – Can anyone become a millionaire? My gut instinct said yes. I was sure anyone can become a millionaire if they just save and invest consistently. Inflation alone will make the millionaire status much easier to attain in 30 years.
Everyone will make a lot more money so it shouldn’t be that hard. That was my reply. However, there were a few dissenting opinions. I didn’t have any research to back it up so I didn’t argue and let it go.
Today, we’ll take a closer look and see if anyone can really become a millionaire. First, we’ll crank some numbers and then look at the psychological side of this question.
Median income
Let’s look at the average case first to see if they have a chance to become a millionaire. We’ll call our average family the Joneses. The median household income in the US is about $60,000 per year. Median household income means that half of the population makes more than this and half makes less. It’s the middle line.
That’s how much the Joneses make. If the Joneses save and invest consistently, can they become millionaires?
Can You Become A Millionaire?
By RETIREBYFORTY
Recently, I saw a question on Twitter – Can anyone become a millionaire? My gut instinct said yes. I was sure anyone can become a millionaire if they just save and invest consistently. Inflation alone will make the millionaire status much easier to attain in 30 years.
Everyone will make a lot more money so it shouldn’t be that hard. That was my reply. However, there were a few dissenting opinions. I didn’t have any research to back it up so I didn’t argue and let it go.
Today, we’ll take a closer look and see if anyone can really become a millionaire. First, we’ll crank some numbers and then look at the psychological side of this question.
Median income
Let’s look at the average case first to see if they have a chance to become a millionaire. We’ll call our average family the Joneses. The median household income in the US is about $60,000 per year. Median household income means that half of the population makes more than this and half makes less. It’s the middle line.
That’s how much the Joneses make. If the Joneses save and invest consistently, can they become millionaires?
Here are my assumptions
The Joneses will receive a 3% raise every year. This really isn’t much. It’s barely beating inflation, which is around 2%. I assume the Joneses will keep their saving rate steady. When they get any annual raises, they’ll save a bit more.
They’ll invest in the stock market and generate 8% return every year.
I’ll graph it out. We’ll see how long it’ll take the Joneses to reach millionaire status with different saving rates.
Ha! It is as I suspected. The Joneses can become millionaires in 31 years if they religiously save 10% of their income. The more they save, the faster they’ll become a millionaire.
Saving Rate Millionaire in
10% 31 years
20% 23 years
30% 20 years
40% 17 years
50% 15 years
From this table, it looks to me like anyone who makes median income AND is under 30 can easily become a millionaire. Saving 10% really isn’t that difficult at that level of income.
Of course, I recommend saving much more than that in order to achieve financial independence in a reasonable timeframe. You really should aim to save 50% of your income.
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.Cheapest U.S. Cities for Early Retirement 2019
.Cheapest U.S. Cities for Early Retirement 2019
By Stacy Rapacon, Online Editor Kiplinger| July 4, 2019
Early retirement can be more than just a daydream for those long Tuesday afternoons at work. With some smart planning, you can make leaving the workforce early a reality. You just have to keep in mind the unique challenges facing early retirees.
First of all, entering retirement at a relatively younger age means needing to stretch your nest egg further (hopefully). One way to do that is to find the right retirement destination for you. That's because where you live makes a big impact on your budget. After all, settling down in a place where the cost of living is below the national average means your retirement savings pack in more purchasing power.
With that in mind, we pinpointed 50 great places in the U.S. for early retirees—one in each state—focusing on living costs, median incomes and poverty rates for residents ages 45 to 64, as well as local tax environments and labor markets (just in case you want a second act to stretch your retirement savings further).
Of our 50 picks, these 31 destinations offer particularly low living costs, which heightens the chances of your money lasting through your extra-long retirement and beyond. The list is ordered alphabetically by state.
Cheapest U.S. Cities for Early Retirement 2019
By Stacy Rapacon, Online Editor Kiplinger| July 4, 2019
Early retirement can be more than just a daydream for those long Tuesday afternoons at work. With some smart planning, you can make leaving the workforce early a reality. You just have to keep in mind the unique challenges facing early retirees.
First of all, entering retirement at a relatively younger age means needing to stretch your nest egg further (hopefully). One way to do that is to find the right retirement destination for you. That's because where you live makes a big impact on your budget. After all, settling down in a place where the cost of living is below the national average means your retirement savings pack in more purchasing power.
With that in mind, we pinpointed 50 great places in the U.S. for early retirees—one in each state—focusing on living costs, median incomes and poverty rates for residents ages 45 to 64, as well as local tax environments and labor markets (just in case you want a second act to stretch your retirement savings further).
Of our 50 picks, these 31 destinations offer particularly low living costs, which heightens the chances of your money lasting through your extra-long retirement and beyond. The list is ordered alphabetically by state.
Huntsville, Ala.
Total Population: 444,908
Share Of Population, Age 45 To 64: 27.8% (U.S.: 26.1%)
Retired Cost Of Living: 5.4% Below The National Average
Median Income, Age 45 To 64: $77,266 (U.S.: $69,909)
State's Retiree Tax Picture: Tax Friendly
As one of the 10 Cheapest States Where You'll Want to Retire, the Heart of Dixie boasts many great spots for affordable living. And Huntsville, in northern Alabama, is one of the best. It offers all the low-cost, low-tax advantages as the rest of the state, but adds more generous household incomes.
Home to NASA's Marshall Space Flight Center, the Redstone Arsenal and the Huntsville campus of the University of Alabama, the city offers a robust economy and a highly educated population.
You can also find plenty of cultural attractions, from a sculpture trail to a symphony orchestra, as well as opportunities for outdoor recreation (think bass fishing). In fact, Alabama at-large offers many of Florida's popular retirement attractions—warm weather, nice beaches and plenty of golf—all at a typically lower price.
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.Crypto-Fiat Currency is a Disaster for Your Privacy
Crypto-Fiat Currency is a Disaster for Your Privacy
By Chris Lowe, Editor, Inner Circle Sep 12, 2019, 8:08 am EDT
We’re not the first to worry about financial privacy in a digital world
Imagine a new type of cash…
Unlike the kind you carry in your wallet, it exists only in digital form.
There’s no more need for ATMs. Tip jars are a thing of the past. Even vending machines are digital.
Every time you spend money, it’s through a digital app. And it’s recorded in a government database.
Crypto-Fiat Currency is a Disaster for Your Privacy
By Chris Lowe, Editor, Inner Circle Sep 12, 2019, 8:08 am EDT
We’re not the first to worry about financial privacy in a digital world
Imagine a new type of cash…
Unlike the kind you carry in your wallet, it exists only in digital form.
There’s no more need for ATMs. Tip jars are a thing of the past. Even vending machines are digital.
Every time you spend money, it’s through a digital app. And it’s recorded in a government database.
The feds collect and store details on every transaction you make. They also know exactly where you are in the world every time you buy something.
In today’s dispatch, I (Chris) will show you why this scenario is already becoming a reality around the world… and why it’s a disaster if you value your liberty.
Then tomorrow, we’ll look at why it’s coming to America… and what you can do about it.
We’re not the first to worry about financial privacy in a digital world…
A pioneering computer scientist called Paul Armer sounded the alarm on this back in the 1970s.
In the 1950s and 1960s, Armer headed the computer science departments at the RAND Corporation think tank and at Stanford University.
Then, in 1975, he issued a chilling warning about what would happen to our privacy if governments ditched physical cash and moved to a purely digital money system.
In an article titled “Computer Technology and Surveillance,” Armer said such a system would become a powerful surveillance tool for the state.
This wasn’t lost on the KGB….
In 1971, Russia’s secret police tasked a group of advisors to devise a plan.
KGB higher-ups wanted to figure out how to create a surveillance system that would keep track of everyone inside the U.S.S.R. without them knowing about it.
The computer scientists’ proposed solution was to get rid of physical cash and replace it with digital currency transactions. As Armer wrote…
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https://investorplace.com/2019/09/crypto-fiat-currency-is-a-disaster-for-your-privacy-lrg/
.How the Feds Can Finally Win Their War on Cash
.How the Feds Can Finally Win Their War on Cash
By Chris Lowe November 28, 2018
Say goodbye to the dollars in your wallet… Why governments hate cash and cryptos… Last chance to join Bill, Doug, and Mark in tonight’s special broadcast… In the mailbag: “Your freedom ends as soon as it crosses into mine”…
We’re living in a Surveillance Society…
When we left off yesterday, we were discussing the Surveillance Society – the Deep State’s attempt to monitor, record, and process everything you say and do.
Every search you make on Google… every page you like on Facebook… every purchase you make with a credit or debit card… every song you listen to on iTunes… every show you watch on Netflix… every email you send… every phone call you make – your digital activity is being watched and tracked around the clock.
How the Feds Can Finally Win Their War on Cash
By Chris Lowe November 28, 2018
Say goodbye to the dollars in your wallet… Why governments hate cash and cryptos… Last chance to join Bill, Doug, and Mark in tonight’s special broadcast… In the mailbag: “Your freedom ends as soon as it crosses into mine”…
We’re living in a Surveillance Society…
When we left off yesterday, we were discussing the Surveillance Society – the Deep State’s attempt to monitor, record, and process everything you say and do.
Every search you make on Google… every page you like on Facebook… every purchase you make with a credit or debit card… every song you listen to on iTunes… every show you watch on Netflix… every email you send… every phone call you make – your digital activity is being watched and tracked around the clock.
There are also hundreds of millions of cameras and microphones in smartphones, laptops, and “smart devices” such as Amazon’s Echo, Google Home, or Facebook’s Portal.
And with the new advances in facial recognition we’ve been telling you about… odds are you’ll show up on one of America’s 30 million CCTV cameras. (That’s one for roughly every 11 citizens.)
The U.S. Surveillance Society is already formidable. And it’s about to get even more formidable… as the feds come after the last refuge of financial privacy – cash.
Before we get to that, a final reminder about tonight’s special broadcast…
Tonight at 8 p.m. ET, we’re hosting an evening with Bill Bonner, Doug Casey, and Mark Ford.
It’s a rare chance to hear these three legendary newsletter men and self-made millionaires share their secrets about business, investing, and life that I (Chris) think you’re going to love.
You will also have the opportunity to “partner” with Bill, Doug, and Mark on a new venture they’ve been keeping under wraps until now.
Now, back to why the feds want to kill cash…
Cash is a remnant of the analog age. That makes it a safe haven from digital snooping.
Take a stack of $50 bills from under your mattress… buy something with them… and the feds can’t easily track you.
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https://www.legacyresearch.com/the-daily-cut/how-the-feds-can-finally-win-their-war-on-cash/
.Your Savings Are at Risk in the Cashless World That’s Coming
Your Savings Are at Risk in the Cashless World That’s Coming
Chris Lowe Investor Place September 13, 2019
They’re Coming For Your Money – Every Last Cent…
That may sound like a weird, tinfoil-hat type of thing to say.
But it’s what’s at stake in the War on Cash.
As we’ve been showing you, governments are planning to seize control of your wealth by getting rid of banknotes and coins.
That means no more Ben Franklins. No more nickels and dimes. Nothing but electronic 1s and 0s in a government database.
Your Savings Are at Risk in the Cashless World That’s Coming
Chris Lowe Investor Place September 13, 2019
They’re Coming For Your Money – Every Last Cent…
That may sound like a weird, tinfoil-hat type of thing to say.
But it’s what’s at stake in the War on Cash.
As we’ve been showing you, governments are planning to seize control of your wealth by getting rid of banknotes and coins.
That means no more Ben Franklins. No more nickels and dimes. Nothing but electronic 1s and 0s in a government database.
In a purely digital-currency world… the feds will be able to track, monitor, and record all your financial transactions.
Worse, your savings will be subject to whatever crazy policies central bankers come up with to cope with the next financial crisis… with little chance of escape.
Think of this as a “digital slaughterhouse”…
It’s a term I (Chris) borrowed from currency expert Jim Rickards. As he put it…
When pigs are going to be slaughtered, they are first herded into pens for the convenience of the slaughterhouse. When savers are going to be slaughtered, they are herded into digital accounts from which there is no escape.
As I showed you yesterday, this is a trend already in motion.
https://investorplace.com/2019/09/crypto-fiat-currency-is-a-disaster-for-your-privacy-lrg/
China plans to roll out a fully digital version of its currency in November. Canada, Britain, Norway, and Sweden are also looking into purely digital versions of their national currencies.
Today, I’ll show you why these countries are creating a roadmap that other governments – including in the U.S. – will follow.
https://finance.yahoo.com/news/savings-risk-cashless-world-coming-144512361.html
.Laurentian Bank Will Not Accept Rolled Change For Deposit
Laurentian Bank Will Not Accept Rolled Change For Deposit
Montreal man has $800 in rolled change, but his bank won't deposit the money
Lauren McCallum, Verity Stevenson 2 days ago
Julien Perrotte brings rolled change to his bank each year. But now, Laurentian Bank says it will not deposit the coins into his account.
Julien Perrotte stood in front of the representative at his local bank last week, unsure he properly understood what she was telling him.
He was carrying about $800 worth of coins, sorted and rolled, that he had collected over the past year. But she said Laurentian Bank wouldn't deposit them.
"I'm like, 'It doesn't make sense,'" Perrotte told CBC News.
Laurentian Bank Will Not Accept Rolled Change For Deposit
Montreal man has $800 in rolled change, but his bank won't deposit the money
Lauren McCallum, Verity Stevenson 2 days ago
Julien Perrotte brings rolled change to his bank each year. But now, Laurentian Bank says it will not deposit the coins into his account.
Julien Perrotte stood in front of the representative at his local bank last week, unsure he properly understood what she was telling him.
He was carrying about $800 worth of coins, sorted and rolled, that he had collected over the past year. But she said Laurentian Bank wouldn't deposit them.
"I'm like, 'It doesn't make sense,'" Perrotte told CBC News.
The woman told him he could exchange the coins for bills at local grocery stores, corner stores and pharmacies because "they love coins."
But Perrotte, who works as an independent insurance claims adjuster, says he doesn't have time to shop around for a small business to take his change — especially when it's a service he expects to receive from his bank.
He called Laurentian Bank's customer service line to see if there was any other way the bank would take his hundreds of loonies and toonies.
He was told it was a new policy at the bank not to accept coins.
"Pretty much, I was exasperated," said Perrotte, who has been a member of Laurentian Bank for 15 years.
"It's so absurd.… Everyone has coins, that's for sure. Poor people, rich people."
The other option Perrotte considered was to exchange the coins at a Coinstar machine, which are at some grocery stores and malls, but the machines charge about 12 per cent in fees for the service.
"So I would lose like 80 bucks just to try to get rid of money. And my bank doesn't want my money!" Perrotte said.
Some bank branches going cashless
As Perrotte points out, the Royal Canadian Mint is still producing coins as legal tender. But he now wonders who is ensuring that banks will take them.
He's worried other banks will follow Laurentian's lead.
In a response to a request for comment from CBC News, Royal Canadian Mint spokesperson Alex Reeves said the Crown corporation's mandate is limited to manufacturing and distributing Canadian currency.
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.Going Cashless Looks More and More Like a Capitalist Scam
Going Cashless Looks More and More Like a Capitalist Scam
By Ankita RaoMar 22 2019
Lawmakers argue bans on cashless stores could protect tens of millions of Americans without access to credit cards.
When Bluestone Lane decided to go cashless, the people running the coffee franchise were thinking of efficiency.
“Cash takes time,” said Andy Stone, vice president of brand marketing and events at the company, which was inspired by cafe culture in Australia. “In New York, nobody wants to be waiting in line.” There’s also the counting of cash, the moving and transferring of it in actual trucks, which can be vulnerable to theft.
And, Stone noted, the transparency question. “Whatever comes into the system, comes into the system. It’s better for society if we pay more taxes.”
Going Cashless Looks More and More Like a Capitalist Scam
By Ankita RaoMar 22 2019
Lawmakers argue bans on cashless stores could protect tens of millions of Americans without access to credit cards.
When Bluestone Lane decided to go cashless, the people running the coffee franchise were thinking of efficiency.
“Cash takes time,” said Andy Stone, vice president of brand marketing and events at the company, which was inspired by cafe culture in Australia. “In New York, nobody wants to be waiting in line.” There’s also the counting of cash, the moving and transferring of it in actual trucks, which can be vulnerable to theft.
And, Stone noted, the transparency question. “Whatever comes into the system, comes into the system. It’s better for society if we pay more taxes.”
Bluestone is far from the only business allowing solely plastic or digital payments in a country where, a Federal Reserve report last fall estimated, credit and debit cards were used in 48 percent of consumer transactions in 2017.
But in the past several months, local and state governments have moved to resist this trend, citing concerns that a cashless economy could discriminate against the roughly 6.5 percent of US households—disproportionately young, low-income people of color—without bank accounts, and hike up the cost of goods to account for credit card fees.
In early March, Philadelphia became the first major US city to ban cashless businesses. A couple of weeks later, the state of New Jersey followed suit, becoming the second state to ban virtually all cashless businesses after Massachusetts, which has had a policy in place since the 1970s.
Now cities like New York, Washington, DC, and San Francisco are considering similar moves. The regulations reflect a national push to fight back against corporations and tech firms critics say are only serving to widen already-yawning economic disparities.
“This should be the law of the land,” said Paul Moriarty, the New Jersey assemblyman who led his state’s successful push to ban cashless enterprises, "just as the US dollar is legal tender and is supposed to be accepted for all debts.” Moriarty’s legislation garnered almost unanimous support in a state that includes Newark, one of the most underbanked cities in the country.
But it’s not only low-income families he’s accounting for. Moriarty also pointed out that going cashless could allow businesses, and customers, to be exploited or juiced by financial institutions. Visa, it should be noted, has been offering restaurants $10,000 to go cashless.
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https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/kzm4yv/cashless-businesses-discrimination
.Forrrest Fenn's 5 Million Dollar Hidden Treasure
.Forrrest Fenn’s 5 Million Dollar Hidden Treasure
By Julia Glum June 17, 2019
Everyday Money & Hidden Treasure
There's a Treasure Chest Worth Millions Hidden Somewhere in the Rocky Mountains. These Searchers Are Dedicating Their Lives and Savings to Finding It
Forrrest Fenn’s 5 Million Dollar Hidden Treasure
By Julia Glum June 17, 2019
Everyday Money & Hidden Treasure
There's a Treasure Chest Worth Millions Hidden Somewhere in the Rocky Mountains. These Searchers Are Dedicating Their Lives and Savings to Finding It
When Cynthia Meachum lost her job in 2015, it was the best day of her life. To hear the 65-year-old tell it, she got the bad news, waved off her boss’s apologies and nearly skipped away.
“I wanted to do cartwheels,” she says.
Meachum had been close to retiring from her gig as a field service engineer in the semiconductor industry anyway. Getting laid off meant she could fully throw herself into her true passion: finding Forrest Fenn’s hidden treasure, worth millions.
She already had the “war room,” a converted library in her Rio Rancho, New Mexico, home where the walls are papered with giant maps of Yellowstone National Park and nearby forests. She had the resources, including manuals on fly fishing in Montana, the domain chasingfennstreasure.com, and connections to an international community of searchers.
Cynthia Meachum in the "war room" of her home in Rio Rancho, NM, May 29, 2019. Photograph by Sarina Finkelstein.
Now — finally — she had the time.
“As soon as I walked out of that conference room, the first person I called was my spouse,” Meachum says. “And the second person I told was Forrest Fenn.”
It was, after all, not something she could really talk about at the water cooler. The elements of the Fenn treasure hunt sound like something out of a fairy tale: nine clues in a poem written by an elderly collector; a chest of jewels concealed somewhere in the Rocky Mountains; a bounty so valuable people have died looking for it.
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.Why Don’t Americans Save?
.Why Don’t Americans Save?
From Get Rich Slowly By J.D. Roth — updated on 07 November 2018
A new report from the Center for Financial Services Innovation says that only 28% of Americans are financially healthy. And it reinforces something we already knew: The U.S. saving rate sucks. Americans don't save.
The U.S. Financial Health Pulse divides people into three tiers of financial health.
Financially healthy people (28% of the U.S., 70 million people) are “spending saving, borrowing, and planning in a way that will allow them to be resilient and pursue opportunities over time.”
Financially coping people (55%, 138 million) are “struggling with some, but not necessarily all, aspects of their financial lives.”
Financially vulnerable people (17%, 42 million) are “struggling with all, or nearly all, aspects of their financial lives.”
Why Don’t Americans Save?
From Get Rich Slowly By J.D. Roth — updated on 07 November 2018
A new report from the Center for Financial Services Innovation says that only 28% of Americans are financially healthy. And it reinforces something we already knew: The U.S. saving rate sucks. Americans don't save.
The U.S. Financial Health Pulse divides people into three tiers of financial health.
Financially healthy people (28% of the U.S., 70 million people) are “spending saving, borrowing, and planning in a way that will allow them to be resilient and pursue opportunities over time.”
Financially coping people (55%, 138 million) are “struggling with some, but not necessarily all, aspects of their financial lives.”
Financially vulnerable people (17%, 42 million) are “struggling with all, or nearly all, aspects of their financial lives.”
Financial Health Of Americans
The full report is huge — it's an 80-page PDF! — and filled with data based on survey responses from 5000 people. The document does a great job of presenting the info, separating it into four major sections (spend, save, borrow, plan), then comparing how people in each financial health tier differ in their approaches.
Here, for instance, are the results for the survey question about saving rate:
Saving rate among Americans
In the nearly thirteen years I've been writing Get Rich Slowly, I've seen reports like this over and over and over again. It's a constant refrain: American's don't save. But why don't they save?
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.The Price Of Gold Just Hit A Record High
.Notes From The Field By Simon Black
September 12, 2019 San Juan, Puerto Rico
The Price Of Gold Just Hit A Record High
A few hours ago, the European Central Bank announced a bonanza stimulus package: interest rate cuts, money printing, quantitative easing, the whole nine yards.
Europe’s economic growth has ground to a halt. The German economy actually shrank last quarter, according to official statistics.
So the European Central Bank is throwing everything including the kitchen sink at this problem. Their stimulus package is like a monetary defibrillator trying to shock Europe’s economies back to growth.
It’s pretty amazing when you think about it: interest rates in Europe are already NEGATIVE. They’ve been cutting rates for years, and it hasn’t worked.
Back in July 2008, the European Central Bank’s main interest rate was 3.25%.
Notes From The Field By Simon Black
September 12, 2019 San Juan, Puerto Rico
The Price Of Gold Just Hit A Record High
A few hours ago, the European Central Bank announced a bonanza stimulus package: interest rate cuts, money printing, quantitative easing, the whole nine yards.
Europe’s economic growth has ground to a halt. The German economy actually shrank last quarter, according to official statistics.
So the European Central Bank is throwing everything including the kitchen sink at this problem. Their stimulus package is like a monetary defibrillator trying to shock Europe’s economies back to growth.
It’s pretty amazing when you think about it: interest rates in Europe are already NEGATIVE. They’ve been cutting rates for years, and it hasn’t worked.
Back in July 2008, the European Central Bank’s main interest rate was 3.25%.
By the end of 2008, it was clear the global economy was slowing down, and the central bank had slashed interest rates to just 1%.
But they kept going.
By 2013, the ECB had reduced its primary interest rate all the way to zero.
And in 2014, they took the unprecedented step of cutting rates even further-- to NEGATIVE 0.10%.
European rates have been negative now for FIVE YEARS. Yet Europe’s economies are still in the dog house.
These results completely defy prevailing economic wisdom.
According to the ridiculous playbook that nearly all central bankers use, cutting interest rates is supposed to stimulate economic growth.
If interest rates are lower, it makes it easier and cheaper for people to borrow money. If it’s cheaper to borrow money, people buy more stuff… which creates more economic growth.
But that’s not happening.
They’ve been cutting rates, even below zero, to the point that you can actually get PAID to BORROW money in Europe. Yet those economies are still stagnating.
To continue reading, please go to the original article at
https://www.sovereignman.com/trends/the-price-of-gold-just-hit-a-record-high-25562/
To your freedom & prosperity, Simon Black Founder, SovereignMan.com
.‘Is It a Bad Idea to Borrow $1K From My Friend?’
.‘Is It a Bad Idea to Borrow $1K From My Friend?’
By Charlotte Cowles
I got laid off a few months ago and I’m still looking for a new job. I’ve been getting by with random work (babysitting mostly), but I’ve finally hit a point where I don’t think I’ll make rent this month.
I can’t ask my parents for help (they’re not in great financial shape either), and at this point, I think my best bet is to borrow money from a friend.
Her family seems well off, so I don’t think I’d be putting her in a tough spot. I also know she lent another friend money a little while ago. I just have no idea how to ask her, and I don’t want it to hurt our friendship.
If she gave me a loan, ideally around $1,000, I could have some breathing room to search for a good job. How do I go about this? Or is there another, better option that I don’t know about?
‘Is It a Bad Idea to Borrow $1K From My Friend?’
By Charlotte Cowles
I got laid off a few months ago and I’m still looking for a new job. I’ve been getting by with random work (babysitting mostly), but I’ve finally hit a point where I don’t think I’ll make rent this month.
I can’t ask my parents for help (they’re not in great financial shape either), and at this point, I think my best bet is to borrow money from a friend.
Her family seems well off, so I don’t think I’d be putting her in a tough spot. I also know she lent another friend money a little while ago. I just have no idea how to ask her, and I don’t want it to hurt our friendship.
If she gave me a loan, ideally around $1,000, I could have some breathing room to search for a good job. How do I go about this? Or is there another, better option that I don’t know about?
If you borrow rent money from a friend — or anyone, really — it will be awkward. Just because your friend can afford to spare some cash doesn’t mean she’s comfortable being in that position. And what if she turns you down? She’ll feel guilty for saying no, you’ll regret asking, and you’ll still be broke.
When I polled some financial experts, they all agreed: It’s generally not a great idea to get into a borrower-lender relationship with friends or even family members. “I’ve seen it ruin friendships, or at least seriously damage them,” says Kristin O’Keeffe Merrick, a financial adviser.
“If one of my clients wants to lend money to a loved one, I always tell them to go into it with no expectation of being paid back.
If they’re comfortable with never seeing that money again, then it’s okay to extend the loan.” Think of this from your friend’s perspective. If, for whatever reason, you never repaid her, would it cause her serious hardship? If the answer is yes, you shouldn’t risk it.
Alternatively, what happens if you take years to repay her? It’s possible that she’ll hold the favor over your head or judge the way you spend money. I know a woman who loaned money to her brother to buy a house, and she says it was hard to watch him make “frivolous” purchases (new sheets, drinks with friends) while she waited two years for him to pay her back.
“I wish we’d been more formal about defining the terms,” she says. “Then I probably wouldn’t have been so anxious about being taken advantage of.” She never told him how she was feeling — just quietly stewed — and money remains a sore spot between them.
No one wants to feel like their personal relationships are transactional. Friendship math — the soft, intimate back-and-forth of giving and taking that happens between people who care about each other — is not numerical, and paying your friend back may not be as simple as cutting her a check.
You might need to massage the friendship in other, more nuanced ways to make her feel appreciated and affirm that she’s more than a piggy bank to you.
For all of these reasons, your friend should be a last resort, not just a more convenient source of cash than another part-time gig. I’m not making light of your situation — it sounds like you really are scraping the bottom of the barrel here.
To continue reading, please go to the original article at
https://www.thecut.com/2019/07/is-it-a-bad-idea-to-borrow-usd1k-from-my-friend.html