A Basic Skill We Should Have Learned as Kids

A Basic Skill We Should Have Learned as Kids

By David Cain of Raptitude

The phrase “Don’t get emotional” implies that we normally aren’t.

Most of our news headlines can be interpreted as emotional responses gone overboard, becoming crime, scandal, corruption, greed, and bad policy.

The fact that these reactions are newsworthy seems to reinforce the idea that emotions are sporadic and exceptional, little whirlwinds that appear around significant events, making the odd day or week wonderful or awful.

But if you pay attention to your emotions as you read these headlines, it becomes obvious that even in our most mundane moments — reading the paper on a Monday morning — we are always feeling some way or another. Even a casual glance at a newspaper will begin to stir up familiar feelings like fear, amazement, disgust, admiration or annoyance. We’re never really in “neutral.”

We’re living through emotional reactions all day long, even to events as tiny as hearing a text message arrive, or noticing a fly in the room. Our emotions aren’t always overwhelming us, but they are always affecting us, coloring our perceptions and opinions about ourselves and our world.

This is the “fish in water” effect at work — because we are immersed in our emotions’ effects every moment of our lives, we tend to talk about them only when they’re exceptionally strong.

Even when it’s not obvious, though, emotions are the force behind almost everything we do. They’re the only reason our experiences matter at all. If every event triggered the same emotion, it wouldn’t matter to us whether we got out of bed or not, whether we were sick or healthy, or whether we thrived or starved.

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Daily Reflections For Highly Effective People

.Daily Reflections For Highly Effective People

By Stephen Covey

The Seven Habits are not a set of  separate or piecemeal psyche-up formulas -- In harmony with the natural laws of growth - they provide an incremental - sequential - highly integrated approach to the  development of personal and interpersonal effectiveness -- They move us progressively on a Maturity Continuum from  dependence to independence to interdependence -- p48-49

#1 Be Proactive

#2 Begin  With  The  End In Mind

#3Put First Things First

#4Think Win/Win

#5 Seek First To Understand Then To Be Understood

#6 Synergize

#7Sharpen The  Saw

Dependence is the paradigm of you -- you take care of me - you come through for me -- you didn't come  through - I  blame  you for the  results -- Dependent people need others to get what they want -- p49

Independence is the paradigm of I -- I can do it -- I am  responsible -- I am self-reliant -- I  can choose --  Independent people can get what  they want through their own effort --p49

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