How to See Right Through a Liar

How to See Right Through a Liar  

By Dr. Marcia Sirota

Everybody lies, that’s nothing new. What matters is the type of lie a person is telling. White lies are usually told to spare someone’s feelings, and are often less hurtful than brutal honesty. The type of lie I want to discuss is one that’s told for the purposes of control, manipulation or profit.

Those of us in the West believe that we’re free to make our own decisions and live our own lives, but this isn’t always the case.

Many people and institutions want something from us: our money, power and votes; even control over our bodies, and they’ll resort to lying in order to achieve their goals.

Many liars are successful, but that’s usually because we make it easy for them. As intelligent, experienced adults, it shouldn’t be so easy for others to fool us, but interestingly, in this era of unlimited access to information and instant global communication, we’re still too gullible.

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.A Basic Skill We Should Have Learned as Kids

A Basic Skill We Should Have Learned as Kids

By David Cain of Raptitude

The phrase “Don’t get emotional” implies that we normally aren’t.

Most of our news headlines can be interpreted as emotional responses gone overboard, becoming crime, scandal, corruption, greed, and bad policy.

The fact that these reactions are newsworthy seems to reinforce the idea that emotions are sporadic and exceptional, little whirlwinds that appear around significant events, making the odd day or week wonderful or awful.

But if you pay attention to your emotions as you read these headlines, it becomes obvious that even in our most mundane moments — reading the paper on a Monday morning — we are always feeling some way or another. Even a casual glance at a newspaper will begin to stir up familiar feelings like fear, amazement, disgust, admiration or annoyance. We’re never really in “neutral.”

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Daily Reflections For Highly Effective People

.Daily Reflections For Highly Effective People

By Stephen Covey

Below are just a select few of daily reflections  and inspirational thoughts  from the book “Daily Reflections For Highly Effective People”  for living the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People  which was named the  #1 Most Influential Business Book of the Twentieth Century .

The Seven Habits are not a set of  separate or piecemeal psyche-up formulas -- In harmony with the natural laws of growth - they provide an incremental - sequential - highly integrated approach to the  development of personal and interpersonal effectiveness -- They move us progressively on a Maturity Continuum from  dependence to independence to interdependence -- p48-49

#1 Be Proactive

#2 Begin  With  The  End In Mind

#3Put First Things First

#4Think Win/Win

#5 Seek First To Understand Then To Be Understood

#6 Synergize

#7Sharpen The  Saw

Dependence is the paradigm of you -- you take care of me - you come through for me -- you didn't come  through - I  blame  you for the  results -- Dependent people need others to get what they want -- p49

Independence is the paradigm of I -- I can do it -- I am  responsible -- I am self-reliant -- I  can choose --  Independent people can get what  they want through their own effort --p49

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