Daily Reflections For Highly Effective People

Daily Reflections For Highly Effective People

By Stephen Covey

The Seven Habits are not a set of  separate or piecemeal psyche-up formulas -- In harmony with the natural laws of growth - they provide an incremental - sequential - highly integrated approach to the  development of personal and interpersonal effectiveness -- They move us progressively on a Maturity Continuum from  dependence to independence to interdependence -- p48-49

#1 Be Proactive

#2 Begin  With  The  End In Mind

#3Put First Things First

#4Think Win/Win

#5 Seek First To Understand Then To Be Understood

#6 Synergize

#7Sharpen The  Saw

Dependence is the paradigm of you -- you take care of me - you come through for me -- you didn't come  through - I  blame  you for the  results -- Dependent people need others to get what they want -- p49

Independence is the paradigm of I -- I can do it -- I am  responsible -- I am self-reliant -- I  can choose --  Independent people can get what  they want through their own effort --p49

Interdependence is the paradigm of we -- We can do it -- We can cooperate -- We can combine our talents and abilities and create something greater together -- Interdependent people combine their own efforts with the  efforts of others to achieve their greatest success -- p49

Effective Interdependence can only be built on a foundation of true independence -- p185

If we want to change a situation, we first have to change ourselves -- And to change ourselves effectively - we first have to change our perceptions  -- p18

Albert Einstein observed - " The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them" -- p42

The way we see the problem - is the problem -- p40

Effective People are not problem-minded -- they're opportunity-minded -- They feed opportunities and starve problems -- p154

Paradigms are powerful because they create the lens through which we see the world -- The power of a paradigm shift is the essential power of quantum change - whether that shift is an instantaneous or a slow and deliberate process -- p32

We must look at the lens through which we see the world - as well as at the world we see - and understand that the lens itself shapes how we interpret the world -- p17

We simply assume that the way we see things is the way they really are or the way they should be - And our attitudes and behaviors grow out of those assumptions -- p24

Each of us has many - many maps in our head - which can be divided into two main categories: maps of the way things are, or realities -- and maps of the way things should be - or values -- We interpret everything we experience through these mental  maps -- p24

Our character - basically - is a composite of our habits -- Because they are consistent - often unconscious patterns - they constantly daily - express our character and produce our effectiveness ........ or ineffectiveness -- p46

You are NOT your habits -- You CAN replace old patterns of self defeating behavior with new patterns - new habits of effectiveness - happiness and trust-based relationships -- p61

Highly Proactive People recognize their "respons-ability -- the ability to choose their response -- They do not blame circumstances - conditions - or conditioning for their behavior -- their behavior is a product of their own conscious choice - based on values - rather than a product of their conditions  - based on feeling -- p71

Reactive People focus on circumstances over which they have  no  control -- the negative energy generated by that  focus - combined with neglect in areas they could do  something about - causes their Circle of Influence to shrink -- p83

Proactive People focus their efforts on the things they can do something about -- the nature of their energy is positive - enlarging - and magnifying causing their Circle of Influence to increase -- p83

Whatever is at the center of our life will be the source of our security - guidance - wisdom and power -- p109