21 Ways to Get a Second Chance

21 Ways to Get a Second Chance

By Lolly Daskal President and CEO, Lead From Within

Sooner or later, we all need a second chance. Here's how to give yourself room to succeed when things haven't gone well so far.

When we get things wrong--and it happens to us all sometimes--the only difference between failure and success is our attitude.

When we give ourselves a second chance we open up the opportunity to do better next time, to grow beyond our past failures and go beyond what we know we are capable of.

Here are some times to give yourself a second chance--to show you can be better and do better.

1. When decisions become difficult. Remember your values and mission and what you stand for. Give yourself a second chance by leading with your values.

2. When you're angry. If anger gets you in trouble, make a commitment to learning to manage your emotions. Give yourself a second chance by leading with emotional intelligence.

3. When you're mired in negativity. So much of what we think of as reality depends on our perceptions and outlook. Give yourself a second chance by leading with positive thoughts.

4. When you want to be respected. If you want respect from others, you must first give it. Respect begets respect. Give yourself a second chance by cultivating respectful leadership.

5. When you realize you don't actually know it all. The only true wisdom is knowing how little we actually know. Make a point of asking questions and listening. Give yourself a second chance by learning from others.

6. When you need to improve. One of the best routes to any second chance is to invest wisely in yourself. Give yourself a second chance by leading with personal development.

7. When you are prone to gossip. Pay attention to your words and make sure that what you say is important, truthful, and kind. Give yourself a second chance by leading with character.

8. When you've been dishonest. The truth may hurt for a little while, but a lie will hurt you forever. Give yourself a second chance by leading with scrupulous honesty.

9. When you lose steam don't think of what you need but of what you can give. It energizes you and helps others as well. Give yourself a second chance by leading with generosity.

10. When you've been slacking. Spend some time unlocking your "why." Give yourself a second chance by leading with your personal mission.

11. When you're bragging. Remember that we grow not through impressing others but through humility. Become known as one who takes genuine joy in the success of others. Give yourself a second chance by leading with modesty.

12. When you're frightened of failure. Everything you have ever wanted is on the other side of fear. Fight your fears or you will be in battle with them forever. Give yourself a second chance by leading with courage.

13. When you're habitually late. The person who honors time shows they respect other people's time. It's the best impression you can make. Give yourself a second chance by leading with punctuality.

14. When you have doubts. Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will. When you bump into doubt, take action immediately. Give yourself a second chance by leading with faithfulness.

To continue reading, please go to the original article here:

https://www.inc.com/lolly-daskal/21-ways-to-get-a-second-chance.html

How to See Right Through a Liar

How to See Right Through a Liar  

By Dr. Marcia Sirota

Everybody lies, that’s nothing new. What matters is the type of lie a person is telling. White lies are usually told to spare someone’s feelings, and are often less hurtful than brutal honesty. The type of lie I want to discuss is one that’s told for the purposes of control, manipulation or profit.

Those of us in the West believe that we’re free to make our own decisions and live our own lives, but this isn’t always the case.

Many people and institutions want something from us: our money, power and votes; even control over our bodies, and they’ll resort to lying in order to achieve their goals.

Many liars are successful, but that’s usually because we make it easy for them. As intelligent, experienced adults, it shouldn’t be so easy for others to fool us, but interestingly, in this era of unlimited access to information and instant global communication, we’re still too gullible.

Perhaps our infatuation with celebrity is responsible for our being charmed by attractive, charismatic liars. Perhaps our educational system isn’t spending enough time teaching us how to be critical thinkers.

Whatever the reason, our willingness to be deceived enables these individuals to steal our hard-earned money, misinform us about our world, trick us into voting for them and seduce us into their beds.

If we want to be more empowered in our lives, we should stop allowing the liars of the world to take advantage of us. This requires opening our eyes and seeing the truth, so that we can begin to make truly informed choices about what we need.

When people or institutions are communicating with us, we must ascertain whether we’re being told the truth or we’re on the receiving end of uninformed opinion, misinformation, sneaky half-truths or pure fabrication.

Here are four basic tools for seeing through the liars in your personal, professional and political life and making sure that it’s a lot harder for these people to fool you in the future:

1: Be your own fact-checker. Successful liars are especially good at making statements that seem credible at first glance but which don’t hold up to scrutiny. If we want to regain control over our lives, we must closely examine what our institutions, bosses, politicians and potential lovers are telling us.

Politicians frequently make statements that are more opinion than truth, or outrageous, false claims about their opponent.

It’s up to each one of us to listen closely to what’s being said and practice a healthy form of skepticism, rather than accepting their words as facts. We can easily assess the accuracy of their statements by doing a bit of research.

People who want our money will play on our heart-strings or our greed. They scam us with pleas for contributions to dubious charities or entice us with promises of enormous returns on our investments.

Again, some fact-checking will go a long way in protecting ourselves from being taken advantage of.

Everyone has heard the cautionary tale of the bride met online who drained her new husband’s savings, or the story of the charming man who was found, after the wedding, to have two other wives, credit cards in five different names, or a nasty STD. Even so, people continue to be taken in by these emotional con-artists.

We all want love, but we can’t be so desperate that we turn a blind eye to the signs that there’s something not quite right about our romantic partner.

We have to verify that the person we’re getting involved with is who they say they are and that their intentions are honourable. Especially in this era of on-line dating, checking the facts can be a matter of life and death.

To continue reading, please go to the original article here:

https://omtimes.com/2013/06/how-to-see-right-through-a-liar/5/

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