Why So Few People Feel Secure About Money — Even When They Have Lots of It

Why So Few People Feel Secure About Money — Even When They Have Lots of It

And why the neighbors of lottery winners are often worse off.

Yahoo Creator  Sean Kernan  June 21, 2024

I’m not rich by any means. But I’ve done well enough to be comfortable, mostly because I saved aggressively early in my career. Yet I still feel like I’m only a stone’s throw from being in poverty, which is slightly irrational.  I remember having no money and having to budget until my next paycheck or risk groveling to my parents for help. It wasn’t a good life. And it still feels like yesterday, even though so many years have passed. Sadly, many people feel this way.

And to some extent — this stress can be constructive. It can mitigate risky spending. You’ll certainly never catch me with problematic expensive hobbies. But I wish I could feel more at ease about my station in life. Many of my friends are in this same psychological boat too. My buddy Brian is a software engineer, who has been making north of $180K per year — for years on end — while living in a low-cost area, and he’s still as cheap as he’s ever been.

So Why Are We Like This? How Do We Level Up And Counteract This Financial Anxiety?

The Origins Of The Problem

People tend to downgrade their financial standing. For example, per a survey by the financial firm Ameriprise Financial, only 13% of American millionaires classify themselves as wealthy. Even among those who had more than $5M in total assets — many still said they didn’t feel rich.

These weren’t people living in Silicon Valley, where $5M only gets you a shack. These were everyday people from all around the United States — still feeling underfunded.

Part of this is because of the disappearance of pensions — and fear that we’ll live on our savings and social security to get us through to old age. Both of my grandfathers had pensions, with one of them having two full separate pensions (military and government). But we are now the 401K generation — in a system that is more stressful than ever.

Why do people who have so much still feel sad about their financial standing?

Elizabeth Dunn, psychology professor at The University of British Columbia, and co-author of Happy Money: The Science of Happier Spending, looked into this very question. She found that social comparison, in particular, drives much of our financial dissatisfaction.

How we compare our income to others of similar age, education, and region of residence, greatly shapes our self-perceptions and satisfaction. Unsurprisingly, those who compared themselves to groups of higher income, tended to be less happy and more anxious about money.

Unfortunately, a majority of people tend to do upward comparisons. The severity of this impact was most notable: “The income of the reference group is about as important as one’s own income for individual happiness.”

It pains me to admit it: I’m 100% a victim of this statistic. I often watch videos of lavish mansion tours on YouTube, despite knowing the likelihood of me ever owning such a property is slim (unless I somehow write the next iteration of Atomic Habits).

But I still enjoy oohing and aahing over the stunning architecture, classy furniture and paintings hanging on the walls. It’s entirely possible this admiration is only heightening my anxiety about money.

Yet I know as well as you that the person in that mansion isn’t likely to be happier than the rest of us. Within a year of becoming rich, or facing tragedy, the vast majority of people return to their baseline happiness.

What’s most telling is that winning the lottery can significantly impact your neighbor’s wellbeing. One study in Canada found that as the magnitude of someone’s lottery winnings went up, their neighbors odds of financial distress and borrowing increased alongside it.

TO READ MORE:  https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/story/why-so-few-people-feel-secure-about-money--even-when-they-have-lots-of-it-212029309.html

Dollar ALERT: Foreign Central Banks Now Own More Gold Than USD

Dollar ALERT: Foreign Central Banks Now Own More Gold Than USD

Notes From the Field By James Hickman  (Simon Black)  September 2, 2025

For centuries, the Byzantine Empire’s gold coin, known as the solidus, had been the backbone of global trade in the medieval world; nearly pure gold, the solidus was trusted by merchants from Baghdad to London.

But by the 11th century, multiple emperors had chipped away at its gold content—watering it down to pay for wars, bureaucracy, and the costs of an empire in decline.

By the time Alexios I took power in 1081, the solidus was barely 40% gold, and merchants never knew which version they were getting or how much real gold it contained.

Alexios tried to restore confidence by minting a new coin in 1092, one he called the hyperpyron—which literally means “super-refined” in Greek.

At 85% purity, it didn’t have the same purity as the old solidus, but the hyperpyron was credible enough to restore trust... for a little while.

But then history repeated itself over the next century; later emperors debased the hyperpyron, just as their predecessors had debased the solidus. And by the late 1200s, there was no more trust in the currency.

When Venice launched the ducat in 1284— at over 99% pure gold— it also came with a pledge that the Venetian government would never debase it.

Combined with Venice’s trade power and rapidly growing wealth, the ducat quickly became the literal gold standard for international trade.

So much, in fact, that by the mid-1300s, the once-mighty Byzantine Empire was pawning its imperial jewels in exchange for Venetian ducats.

(It would be the loose equivalent of the US government selling off national parks in exchange for Swiss francs...)

That was the moment it became obvious to everyone that the Byzantine Empire was no longer the world’s dominant superpower... and that the world’s reserve currency had changed hands.

This pattern repeats itself throughout history. Most reserve currencies have a long, slow decline, as well as clear moments that stand out.

Today, the US government isn’t quite pawning Mount Rushmore for Swiss francs... but we are witnessing a clear moment that demonstrates a loss of confidence in the US dollar:

Foreign governments and central banks now own more gold than they own US Treasury securities.

That means that foreign nations trust in gold more than they trust in the US government.

We’ve been saying this for years: foreign central banks are selling their dollars, and using those dollars to buy gold.

Why? Because the US government’s massive debts make it a less trustworthy lender. While it’s unlikely that the US would outright default, it is very likely that Uncle Sam will eventually turn to the money printer as the “solution” to its debt challenge.

And any foreign central bank which owns a ton of US debt doesn’t want to be paid back with inflated dollars. Better to minimize that exposure now and pare down their dollar holdings.

What do they buy instead? Gold.

Not because central bankers are ‘gold bugs’. But because gold has a 5,000 year history of maintaining value. Because it is dense wealth they can hold physically in their vaults. And because there is a large enough global market to be able to buy or sell metric tons at a time.

This growing gold demand from foreign central banks has been the main driver of gold’s massive bull run— from $1,700 per ounce just three years ago, to over $3,500 per ounce today.

I take no pleasure in pointing this out, but it is becoming clear that foreign governments and central banks simply no longer have the confidence in the US that they once did.

You can see the momentum building; just this week in China, Putin, Xi Jinping, and India’s Modi stood before the world urging trade in national currencies and laying the groundwork for a new financial system designed to chip away at the dollar’s dominance.

And it’s not hard to figure out why.

According to its own projections, the US Treasury will need to sell over $22 trillion in new debt over the next ten years. That’s not a worst-case scenario—that’s the baseline forecast.

Foreign governments and central banks are traditionally one of the largest buyers of US government debt. Yet they’re clearly starting to back away from Treasury bonds... and the US dollar.

This means that the Treasury Department will struggle to find lenders over the next several years... which very likely means relying on the Federal Reserve to ‘print’ the money they need... which of course would be highly inflationary.

This isn’t a doomsday prediction. It’s not a partisan argument. It’s just the reality that America is facing.

Most likely nothing catastrophic will happen tomorrow. Or this month. Or this year. But America is clearly running out of time.

This is not a time for panic; in fact it’s critical to understand that there are rational ways to prepare for the challenges down the road.

We’ve been suggesting gold (and silver) for a number of years, both of which have proven to be excellent shelter.

At $2,000 gold we said this was just the beginning. At $3,000 gold we said that the story was still in its early days. At $3,500 gold, I’m still telling you that this story has much longer to play out.

Nothing goes up or down in a straight line, so there will always be pullbacks and corrections. But the case for gold easily goes to $5,000... and potentially well over $10,000.

That’s not based on any idolatry or fanaticism... but rather a cogent, rational understanding of how global central banking works.

The bottom line is that the world is losing confidence in the US dollar as the global reserve currency. And, right now, there is no alternative. Except for gold. And for that reason central banks (over the long run) will keep stockpiling it... and driving the price higher.

To your freedom,          James Hickman  Co-Founder, Schiff Sovereign LLC   LINK

Why Keeping The Money Isn’t The Right Move

Why Keeping The Money Isn’t The Right Move

Will Kenton  Tue, September 2, 2025

Someone I don’t know deposited $500 to my Zelle account — is there any harm in just keeping it?

Your phone pings, and you open Zelle to find $500 sitting in your account, but it isn’t from your employer, a friend or anyone you recognize. Instead, it’s from a stranger, sent through Zelle with no explanation. At first, it feels like an unexpected windfall. Who wouldn’t be tempted to think of it as free money?.  But that surprise transfer may not be a lucky break. Money sent to your account by someone you don’t know often signals a mistake or, worse, the beginning of a scam.

And if you decide to keep or spend the funds, you could quickly find yourself in trouble. Understanding why these “accidental” payments happen and how scammers exploit them can help you protect your account and your wallet.

Why Keeping The Money Isn’t The Right Move

Unexpected deposits through payment apps are not gifts. Under federal rules like the Electronic Fund Transfer Act, unauthorized transactions can be reversed if they are reported. That means the money you see in your account could disappear just as suddenly as it appeared, especially if it was tied to fraud. Spending it can leave you in financial and legal trouble.

There is also a strong chance that what seems like a mistake is actually part of a scam.

Internet scams have become widespread. In the FBI’s latest 2024 Internet Crime Report, more than 859,000 complaints were filed with the Bureau, and reported losses to Americans increased 33 percent from 2023 to an eye-watering $16.6 billion.

How the scam works

The way the fraud typically unfolds is simple but effective. Here’s the basic play:

• A scammer sets up a payment app account with stolen credit card information.

• They send money to a random person (in this case, you) making it look like a lucky mistake.

• Shortly after, they reach out, often with a friendly or urgent message: “Hey, I sent you $500 by accident, can you send it back?”

• If you return the money, it doesn’t go back to the stolen card. The scammer has already switched their account to a real card they own, so your “refund” goes straight into their pocket.

• Meanwhile, your bank eventually realizes the first payment was fraudulent and reverses it. That $500 disappears from your account, but the money you sent back is gone for good.

TO  READ MORE:  https://news.yahoo.com/news/finance/news/someone-don-t-know-deposited-120000474.html

You Worked Hard To Build Wealth — Use This 3-Step Checklist To Protect It

You Worked Hard To Build Wealth — Use This 3-Step Checklist To Protect It

June 13, 2025  by  Laura Bogart  GoBankingRates

To say you’ve worked hard would be an understatement. You’re no stranger to pulling a 5 to 9 after your 9 to 5 ends. You’ve met with financial advisors and investment professionals to figure out how to stretch your money and grow it through passive income. What you’ve accomplished at this point in your life is impressive — and now, you’re starting to think about what the next phase might look like.

That next chapter should start with protecting what you’ve built. Just as you mapped a master plan to build your wealth, you’ll need a strategy to safeguard it. While personalized advice from your financial advisor is always smart, these three essential steps can help you prepare now.  

Create an Estate Plan  

An estate plan is a cornerstone of protecting your financial legacy — helping ensure the hard work you’ve put in today will continue to bear fruit long after you’re gone. One of the most powerful ways to protect your assets is to keep them in the family and make sure your loved ones can access them easily and responsibly. 

Start by working with a trusted financial and legal team to create a will or a revocable living trust. A revocable trust allows you to manage your assets while you’re still around and to lay out clear instructions for how those assets should be distributed after your death. It can be changed or revoked at any time, as long as you’re making competent, voluntary decisions. It also spares your heirs the time and expense of probate.

To reduce the emotional and financial burden on your family in a crisis, you should also set up an advance healthcare directive and designate durable powers of attorney for both medical and financial matters. These documents ensure your wishes are honored and take difficult decisions off your family’s shoulders.  

Make Sure You Have the Right Life Insurance  

At a minimum, life insurance is designed to protect your family’s financial future if something happens to you unexpectedly. A policy can help them pay off debts, cover day-to-day living expenses and continue pursuing long-term goals like college or retirement savings.

TO READ MORE:  https://www.gobankingrates.com/money/financial-planning/you-worked-hard-build-wealth-checklist-protect-it/?hyperlink_type=manual

Avoid These 4 Common Mistakes When You Get Rich Overnight

Avoid These 4 Common Mistakes When You Get Rich Overnight

Laura Bogart  Sun, August 31, 2025  GOBankingRates

You’re about to score a financial touchdown. Maybe you’ve crushed it at work and landed a sweet promotion. Perhaps you’ve won a lottery or stumbled into a side hustle that suddenly pays off. As you near the end zone, heart pounding, head full of dreams, you can’t afford (literally) to fumble. Whether you’re blindsided by unexpected taxes or tripped up by bad financial advice, you have a lot to lose if you drop the ball.

If there’s one thing Brandon Copeland, former NFL linebacker turned financial expert, knows, it’s how not to fumble good fortune — whether that’s a game-changing play or a sudden influx of cash.

As founder of Copeland Media and Athletes.org, and the author of “Your Money Playbook,” Copeland now dedicates his time to making financial education more accessible for everyone, from high earners to those just trying to get a handle on their first paycheck.

His financial expertise, shaped both by personal experience and by watching fellow NFL players navigate big contracts, has taught him what to do — and, crucially, what not to do — when you come into some money. As part of GOBankingRates’ Top 100 Money Experts series, he answers Question #16: Why do so many people fumble a windfall, and what moves should I make if it ever happens to me?

YouTube:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XJ2DcWPD7qw

1. Not Taking the Time To Learn About Money

When Copeland is outside tossing the pigskin with his five-year-old son, the little guy doesn’t catch it every time. And despite being a force on the field himself, Copeland doesn’t expect his son to be perfect — after all, he’s still learning. He sees a clear parallel to how most of us approach money.

“Most things in life take practice, and unfortunately when it comes to money, many of us never had the chance to learn or practice those skills,” he said. “We just start earning it. So, it’s not absurd to think, ‘Hey, I’m not going to be perfect at this.'”

To Copeland, a windfall doesn’t just reveal your financial blind spots — it magnifies them. That’s why he’s so passionate about financial education, both in the classroom and through his foundation.

“My goal is to help a younger version of myself,” he said. “I think of the problems I had growing up, where I wanted money, but nobody taught me about it. I was blessed to have a high school football coach who ran a hedge fund and invited me to intern with him.”

That mentorship gave Copeland his first real playbook for success in life — and in finance. It’s one he would carry into teaching financial literacy at the University of Pennsylvania, as well as the nonprofit he started with his wife, Beyond the Basics.

2. Giving in to the Urge To Splurge

TO READ MORE: https://www.yahoo.com/finance/news/avoid-4-common-mistakes-rich-131819561.html

3 Things To Focus On To Make Sure Your Identity Isn’t Too Wrapped Up in Money

3 Things To Focus On To Make Sure Your Identity Isn’t Too Wrapped Up in Money, According to Rachel Cruze

Peter Burns   Mon, September 1, 2025  GOBankingRates

Money is an integral part of everyone’s life. Money allows you to buy things you need to survive and helps you maintain your health. It gives you freedom and opportunities to pursue your dreams. It also gives you security and peace of mind. However, when you have a lot of money, it can be easy to root your entire identity in your finances.

Many individuals believe that purchasing designer clothes, buying sports cars and eating at upscale restaurants can improve their social status, but this leads to an important question: Who are you if you lose everything?

Personal finance expert and co-host of “The Ramsey Show” Rachel Cruze asks herself this question often. She explained that it’s possible to lose everything you have, from your car to your home to your gym membership, so it’s crucial to focus on what truly matters: ensuring you aren’t defined by your possessions. In a recent YouTube video, Cruze recommended focusing on these three things to make sure your identity isn’t just your possessions.

A Higher Purpose

“There are things in life that are so much bigger than you,” Cruze said. Keeping yourself grounded in what’s really important is an excellent way to make sure you don’t lean too much into your wealth and ego.

To Cruze, this relates to religion: “If I am worshiping something so much bigger than me that cannot be taken away, there is value and security in that for me.”

However, you don’t need to be religious to have guiding principles that add meaning to your life.

One type of higher purpose may be self-development. Dedicating yourself to creative arts or lifelong learning can be fulfilling. It’s about the journey rather than the outcome. Self-development improves your mental health, happiness and confidence, allowing you to be more than just the items you own.

Generosity

The second way to make sure money doesn’t control your identity is through generosity.

“If crap hits the fan and you have nothing else, there is something that is built through a generous life that will stay with you forever,” Cruze explained.

Embracing a generous lifestyle when you do have money can help you sustain that spirit when you don’t. Even when you don’t have much, Cruze recommends allocating 10% of your budget toward giving to a worthy cause. When you do this, it shifts the focus off your own problems and reminds you of what you do have and what you can do to help others.

Even if you don’t have money to spare, you can still be generous with your time and effort. An SWNS survey found that out of 2,000 American adults, 54% want to leave a positive mark on the world. You can achieve this by mentoring youth, volunteering, building up your community and motivating others.

YOU TUBE VIDEO:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MWvsJi1Kz0A&embeds_referring_euri=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.yahoo.com%2F&source_ve_path=OTY3MTQ                                

TO READ MORE: https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/articles/3-things-focus-sure-identity-141631667.html

‘Check Washing’ Costs Americans Over $1 Billion Each Year, Says USPIS — How To Spot It And Protect Your Money

‘Check Washing’ Costs Americans Over $1 Billion Each Year, Says USPIS — How To Spot It And Protect Your Money

Jessica Wong  Sat, August 30, 2025  Moneywise

Despite seeming retro, check fraud is experiencing a surprising resurgence, with criminals stealing billions of dollars through these schemes.

According to the U.S. Postal Inspection Service (USPIS), "check washing" fraud is inflicting substantial financial damage on Americans. Postal inspectors report intercepting more than $1 billion in fraudulent checks and money orders annually.

Despite the rise of digital financial transactions, thieves are increasingly targeting mail containing paper checks as a vulnerable point in the system.

Using common household supplies, scammers can modify stolen checks by removing the original information and substituting false details before depositing them under assumed identities. Below, we explain their tactics and how to protect yourself.

What is “check washing”?

Check washing is a theft method where criminals steal checks, commonly from mailboxes, and use household chemicals such as nail polish remover or rubbing alcohol to erase the ink. After removing the original information, the thief changes the payee name and amount, cashes the altered check and escapes with the stolen funds.

This scheme, which has been around for decades, has seen a significant increase in incidents since 2021, with check fraud cases nearly doubling according to the FBI's Internet Crime Complaint Center. Postal inspectors warn that this troubling trend is expected to worsen throughout 2025.

Criminal organizations have been identified selling stolen checks on digital platforms and recruiting individuals known as "money mules" to deposit falsified checks into fraudulent accounts, according to NASDAQ Verafin. In a contemporary evolution of this long-established fraud scheme, these stolen checks are now being traded on dark web marketplaces in exchange for cryptocurrency.

Real-world cases show just how quickly it can happen, and victims are losing thousands.

According to ABC7 NY, when Carol Perlman mailed a $656 check, criminals altered it to $9,000. Though her bank eventually refunded the money, they only did so after local media covered her story.

In the same ABC7 NY report, Matt Schick became a victim after depositing a contractor's payment in a street mailbox. Within days, someone had intercepted and cashed it for $7,500.

Fortune magazine reported on entrepreneur Steve, who was stunned to discover that his $310,000 IRS payment never arrived. Thieves had chemically "washed" the check, replacing "IRS" with another name before depositing it. He was forced to pay his taxes again, including penalties and interest, while still fighting with his bank to recover the stolen funds.

TO READ MORE:  Read more: Rich, young Americans are ditching stocks — here are the alternative assets they're banking on instead

FBI, Cybersecurity Experts Warn Of 3-Phase Scam That Is Draining Bank Accounts

FBI, Cybersecurity Experts Warn Of 3-Phase Scam That Is Draining Bank Accounts

Jeremy Tanner  Sat, August 30, 2025 

(NEXSTAR) – A multi-phase scam credited with emptying the financial accounts of numerous Americans – many of whom were nearing the age of retirement – is again making headlines after the FBI recently issued a warning.

Unlike many scams, “Phantom Hacker” attacks often come in three distinct phases, each building on the last to thoroughly convince the victim to allow access to their funds.

“Victims often suffer the loss of entire banking, savings, retirement, or investment accounts under the guise of ‘protecting’ their assets,” the FBI said in a news release.

Aaron Rose, security architect manager at cybersecurity firm Check Point Software, told Nexstar in an email that the crooks often use victims’ personal interests against them. Fans of vintage cars, antique watches or other items might post publicly on social media, making them vulnerable to bad actors.

 “Criminals use personal interests to make their criminal actions appear authentic which decreases the chances of being caught,” Rose said, adding, “AI technology can analyze social media content to detect personal interests and life milestones which allows it to generate messages that seem personalized.”

Since 2024, the scam has reportedly been used to steal over $1 billion in funds, with the majority of victims being at least 60 years old, according to FBI data.

“These attacks are not just simple phone calls or phishing emails—they’re complex operations that involve multiple impersonators, spoofed phone numbers, and coordinated follow-ups,” Scott Davis, chairman of the Cybersecurity Association of Pennsylvania, said in a recent interview. “Seniors are being tricked into believing they’re protecting their money, when in reality they’re handing it straight to criminals.”

‘Tech support’ and the first phase

While pretending to work in tech support for a legitimate company, the scammer will use a phone call, text, email or pop-up window to contact the victim.

Once the victim calls for tech support help, the scammer instructs them to download a program giving access to the victim’s computer. After pretending to check the device for viruses, the scammer will then suggest the victim open financial accounts to look for unauthorized charges.

TO READ MORE:  https://news.yahoo.com/news/articles/fbi-cybersecurity-experts-warns-3-120000759.html

4 Secrets of the Truly Wealthy, According to Dave Ramsey

4 Secrets of the Truly Wealthy, According to Dave Ramsey

Caitlyn Moorhead   Wed, August 27,   GOBankingRates

One of Dave Ramsey’s most consistent pieces of financial advice is that wealth-building isn’t necessarily tied to how much money you make, but rather how you manage what you have. Many people assume that earning a higher income automatically leads to wealth, but Ramsey points out that a disciplined approach to spending and saving is far more important. Truly wealthy people live below their means and when they do spend money, they don’t advertise it.

Essentially, saving consistently is more important than the size of your paycheck or what you splurge on. Known for his no-nonsense approach to personal finance, Ramsey has helped millions of people get out of debt and take control of their financial futures. But what separates those who simply earn a good living from the truly wealthy?

According to Ramsey, “When you quit worrying about what people think and you’re actually living life for you and your family — that causes you to make completely different purchases and live a completely different lifestyle.” Here are key principles that truly wealthy people understand and practice consistently.

They Don’t Dress To Impress

The wealthy don’t leave their financial futures to chance. They create a plan, stick to it and regularly review it, which doesn’t leave a lot of wiggle room for extravagant purchases like designer clothing. Think about some of the billionaires you see in the news — many aren’t dressing like a million bucks even though they have more than a billion bucks.

Ramsey would recommend taking baby steps toward building an emergency fund, paying off debt or investing for retirement well before you spend thousands of dollars on pants or shoes. The truly wealthy know where their money is going each month and it’s not hanging in their closet.

They Don’t Share Their Vacation Pictures

Ramsey is a strong advocate for long-term investing and wealth-building strategies. However, once someone has grown their wealth to be in a place where they are considered rich, they tend not to advertise how much they have or are spending.

Some of the most lavish and luxurious expenses can include trips the wealthy take, but the truly wealthy don’t let you know about those.

Ramsey said, “They enjoy nice vacations but they seldom post them for you to see on Instagram because they didn’t take you on vacation. They wanted to go on vacation.”

They Keep Their Holiday Spending in Check

Generosity is a hallmark of the truly wealthy, and giving often brings even more fulfillment than financial success. However, that doesn’t mean they spend everything they can afford to during the holiday season.

TO READ MORE:   https://www.yahoo.com/finance/news/4-secrets-truly-wealthy-according-110551464.html

Kevin O’Leary: Top 2 Financial Rules From My Mom That I Still Follow

Kevin O’Leary: Top 2 Financial Rules From My Mom That I Still Follow

Gabrielle Olya  Sun, August 24, 2025 GOBankingRates

“Shark Tank” star Kevin O’Leary has built his wealth through entrepreneurship and savvy investing, but he credits his mother for setting him on the right financial path. There are several money lessons his mother taught him throughout his lifetime that still shape how he approaches finances today.

Here are two of the financial rules O’Leary learned from his mom that he thinks everyone should follow.

Keep Your Own Financial Accounts — Even in Marriage

When you get married, you may want to merge all of your finances — but O’Leary learned from his mother that this is not the smartest approach.

“My mother taught me a lot about financial independence,” he told GOBankingRates while discussing his partnership with HelloPrenup, an online prenuptial agreement platform. “She was married twice but kept a secret account from both of her husbands her entire life.”

O’Leary said that his mother started saving 15% of her pay when she was very young and kept that money completely sequestered during her marriages.

“She helped my brother and I through school [with that money],” O’Leary said. “She really believed that in a marriage, both spouses should have their own financial identity. They should never give that up because you don’t know it’s going to happen in marriage.”

TO READ MORE:  https://finance.yahoo.com/news/kevin-o-leary-top-2-201622431.html

The Real Reason Couples Fight About Money

Rachel Cruze: The Real Reason Couples Fight About Money

August 25, 2025  by  Jaime Catmull

Question #2 of GOBankingRates’ Top 100 Money Experts Series

What’s the best way to handle financial disagreements in a relationship?

Who doesn’t love a story that ends with “and they lived happily ever after”? Whether it’s a fairy tale or a rom-com, everyone swoons when the pair that belonged together all along finally heads off into the sunset hand in hand.

Yet the story usually ends at this point. There’s no mention of what that happily ever after really looks like — sharing space, juggling busy schedules and navigating arguments about money.

Part of merging your life with someone else’s means integrating your finances. Depending on your upbringing, personal history and beliefs, you could be bringing some very different money mindsets to the table — and serving up a perfect recipe for conflict.

Fortunately, according to Rachel Cruze, bestselling author and financial expert, achieving that “happily ever after” is possible — even when you’re still figuring out how to manage money as a couple.

GOBankingRates caught up with Cruze to ask why couples fight about money and what they can do to achieve their own financial harmony.

It Goes Deeper Than Dollars and Cents

Sometimes, a fight that seems like it’s all about money isn’t just about dollars and cents. Cruze explained that most financial disagreements stem from deeper emotional issues, like trust, communication and feeling disconnected from your partner.

 “I always say: Money touches every part of your life, from what groceries you buy to the dreams you have for your future,” she said. “So if there’s tension in how you’re handling money, it’s going to spill over into everything else. That’s why I’m such a big believer in working together, not separately.”

Understanding that there are emotional and philosophical factors at play in how you and your partner think about money is key to having practical, productive conversations about your finances. Cruze’s advice? “Stop hiding, start communicating, and get on a plan together.”

TO READ MORE:  https://www.gobankingrates.com/money/real-reason-couples-fight-about-money-how-to-fix-it-rachel-cruze/?hyperlink_type=manual