How Do You Know If You’re Frugal Or Just Ridiculous?

The Frugal Girl  November 9, 2022

A reader question:  How do you know if you’re frugal or just ridiculous?  There seems to be a thin line. For example, is it frugal or ridiculous to postpone shopping for new undergarments for a year because new undergarments are not necessary for survival?

In the years that I have been reading content about frugality, I have noticed that this is a common theme/question/issue.   How frugal is TOO frugal?  What’s sensible, and what’s just cheap?

Where’s the line between frugality and deprivation?

I’ll write down a couple of principles I use to guide me, and then I’d love to hear your thoughts!

A few notes:

I’m writing this from the perspective of the most frugal household member since that’s always been my role

I have in mind people who are choosing to be frugal, not people who will literally go hungry if they don’t save every penny possible

Everyone gets to decide this for themselves

Since we all have different backgrounds, priorities, and sets of expectations, the answer to these questions is going to vary from person to person.

One person’s frugal might be another person’s deprivation, for example.

As long as a person’s frugal choices aren’t harming another person or harming themselves, I think they should be left in peace, even if others might happen to view their choices as too extreme.

A lot of us don’t live by ourselves, though, so…

You should compromise with other household members

The odds of everyone in your household having the exact same standards for frugality are very low.

And since some frugalities do not just affect you, you need to consider other people’s comfort levels as well. Frugality is important, but so are relationships!

This means that if a fellow household member is miserable if you keep the heat at 65 degrees, you should compromise.

Or if you don’t mind using raggedy bath towels, but a family member hates it, you should probably get some new bath towels for that person to use, even if you continue to use the raggedy ones.

And hopefully, the less-frugal members of your family will also compromise and humor you. Flexibility on both sides is key!    Most cheapness is selfish   I think the line between frugal and cheap often comes down to a selfishness issue.

When your money-saving efforts affect just you, and they don’t cause harm to anyone else, that’s frugal.

When your money-saving efforts hurt or deprive someone else, that’s when you’ve crossed the line into cheap.

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